Everyday is such a cruel joke and fate stands there laughing at us after playing such heartless pranks on us; sadistically saturating itself with our miseries.
We are all so much in pain- wishing on dreams, battling the past, working our asses off to run our families, regretting and mourning over dead relationships. I wouldn’t use a word as strong as “depression” but everyone around is stressed. We need to talk. We need to find ways to calm ourselves. I’m no expert, I’m not even close to being one. But on a human to human level, I can only talk you into using three strategies to help you calm down. No buddy, these are no way going to solve your trouble but they can calm you down, temporarily, to help you think better. These are not step by step processes or anything related.
How often we hear people say, “just take a deep breath”. It does sound absolutely pointless. I mean, I have this plethora of problems hanging on my head and I’m sweating like shit every night thinking of them and you expect me to just breathe and pretend every problem is going to disappear?? This idea turns out to be more nonsensical the moment I try it and it actually works!!!
Let me tell you a little secret now- Breathing is how most of us remain calm and that’s exactly how most of us escape the almost mental breakdowns that life pulls us towards daily.
How, I don’t know. But it really helps. If you try to think too deep you’ll never be able to convince yourself. That one second when you take a deep breath is the moment of realization that panicking will not help. Don’t find a solution at that point, just calm yourself. Best decisions come out when one is calm. I don’t guarantee your problems to disappear, but the weight will be lighter and your head a little less messy.
You know that one point in life when you have no idea what’s happening and why it’s happening; and you’re in the arms of your 2a.m and you know you’re the only one awake. No one is even online. And even if someone’s up, I save my 2a.m only for myself.
So, there’s me, with my earphones plugged, and the volume on the highest. My feet tap softly to each beat. It’s so soothing to close my eyes and breathe with the rhythm. There is my entire world crashing to ruins but music makes me forget about the havoc. It feels demonic sometimes, how it lures me to stop worrying.
I breathe, a bit longer than usual. The storm in me is bearable – no, not settled, just bearable as long as the music lasts. I’m relaxed.
I know there are people who are not dealing with the present, but rather the haunting ghostly past. The present might be a perfect moment but the past has left scars too burdensome to see the beautiful present without being hazy. And everyday we think, “how do I forget and unsee what I’ve already seen?” Or “how can I change my feelings?”
Truth is, we cannot. Feelings can only be surpassed. Perspectives are changed, not feelings. Too complicated? Let me explain.
When we feel sad, we can’t stop feeling sad unless another feeling dominates the former one. Okay, I’m definitely not able to explain here, right?
Imagine this- You recently started loving someone. Now love is an amazing feeling. I don’t think anyone has ever escaped it’s clutches. But, you’re not loved back. You are frustrated, basically almost always pissed off. You realize people cannot be unloved. Then months later you fall for someone new. You see, your feelings did not change. You loved that person. But the bigger truth is you love the second person so much more.
Feelings are so complicated. No one really teaches you in school how to deal with them. I fight my feelings everyday – anger, anxiety, restlessness over absolutely nothing. I am still learning. But I have learnt one thing. The best way to move on from a feeling is by accepting it. The more you try to escape, the more it will ricochet back. So anyone out there trying to fight, stop. Accept things as they are. I know it’s so much easier said than done. But you’ve got to understand, holding on will only get you stuck on a loop of sticky events.
Start putting your mind to other things. Find your passion. If you like writing, write till your pen runs out of ink. If you like dancing, dance till the floor shatters. If you like to sing, sing at the top of your lungs. If you like to paint, paint till the brush needs rest. If you like to roam, then walk around and explore place you never have.
Accept things and move on.
I sometimes wonder that very less people read my blog anyway so what am I even doing. You see there are two reasons. The first, as I always say, writing always puts spirit at the right space and the second reason is that even if one person reads my post and feels my word, I feel good. If there’s even person who can feel better or relate to what I wrote then I think I might be somehow being useful (even if to just that one person).
– Post By Yuri